I say this as if I am all-knowing—full disclosure: I am not! Im goin thru somin like tht I feel like hes cheatin cause I went frm c n him 3 times a week to maybe twice a month he use to call b for he go to wrk while he at wrk whn he get off all the way to his house but all tht.hve change we do hve a 9 month so whn he call it just b about the baby I haven't answered his call in4 days I need advice I dnt hve.a email so please respond back. Any suggestions. He messages in the morning to check up like a bf would but blows me off around 5pm every night. He was angry but we eventually sorted things out. One was: "being busy." Take full responsibility even if you unconsciously did it, and apologize to him right away. After all, if he is the right one, fate will always bring him back to you. Again I said things because he disappointed me. most men are very insecure and sensitive. Because as far as he is concerned, there is nothing wrong with him. However, if you don't pressurise it it will never break. It is difficult at first, but with the right tips, you can overcome this obstacle in your relationship. Do I cut him loose completely and move on, or hang on incase this could be something amazing, after so long. He was cold. Thank you I found this quite reassuring. "Give him space", "love the hell out of him", "don't worry" but "prepare yourself for the worst", Theese things you are suggesting are not simple. So my sister was raped at a party 10 years ago, she never knew who did it. if im being honest me and my partner have been together nearly 3 years now and sometimes i don't know if it's a relationship we have or a friends with benefits relationship the reason im saying this is because when we first got together if was great for the first few months or so as everyone was so happy for the both of us but as time went by people then stated the ball of rumors going by saying things for example i was trying to reap him with a child and that he's a player and so on ............ i sometimes think to myself what should i do because when were alone it's the best feeling ever but the when his friends (BOYS) get in contact he seems to put them before me and some of them in the past have tried leading him a stray ......… he's a really nicer guy don't get me wrong but he doesn't. tell him you love him and your here for him. The causes of the change in your man’s attitude can be dealt with, so do not panic right away. two months ago --, he seems distant and not texting me as much and one of our conversation he became irritable and says its better we cool off or break up since he is not 100% sure with us..he wants his freedom, his priority is his son.. and he said he just needs time to figure out what he wants. Fortunately, it didn't turned out to be a scam and I can say that I am thankful to this author from the bottom of my heart, both me and my boyfriend are greatful that we didn't lose our relation from such small things. Here are a few reasons why that might be happening. You talk too much. Assessing the reasons why your boyfriend is being distant and figuring out what to do about it can be tricky. He is the nicest, sweetest, most soft hearted guy and everyone who knows him says this. I don't have a boss standing over my shoulder and I make my own hours. Great post indeed... Something I often need to remind myself of. This needs to be discussed between them, openly and honestly, so as to strengthen the relationship. most likely he will tell you after a few days when he is not in as bad of mood. It’s possible that your boyfriend is distant because he doesn’t want to be in the relationship anymore. This is the perfect time for you to get a little gift for your guy to cheer him up. Well, I beg to differ. Does it feel like your boyfriend is ignoring you? Trust me…you don’t know how lucky you are. Another reason why he starts being cold is that he is feeling smothered. Whether physically or mentally, guys have a horrible time relaying when they are hurt. Not keeping up with your usual rituals like calling you before you go to bed, … He may love you deeply, but just be shut off from his ability to express it. Since then he was a lil cold but i learn to understand him. he told me he loves me so much, but I can't trust or believe him,because he was hardly there, and never provided for me ,not even money to buy a bra,or panties, but I really love him a lot. She has recognised that he 'uses' her as he always tells her he 'loves me' and that she was a 'mistake'... a mistake he has made twice in the year and a half that we have been together. Posted May 29, 2019 Lastly, remember that your man does not act distant all of a sudden without a valid reason. I will be calm and not fret when he gets home. You started panicking and asked yourself what exactly happened. thanks for stopping by :D. ladyjane1 from Texas on January 30, 2010: Hello Sa Toya it is always nice to read your hubs. Also accused me one time of checking his phone when i really didnt. Any advice would be great. Because I haven't heated from him in 2 weeks. daisy62698@gmail.com on January 04, 2019: Last conversation we had was in second of November, sending him a xmas card putting on wall..Haven't heard nothing. We network and discuss everything more than men. Then I tried talking to him about his being distant! Whatever way you look at it, going with a gut feeling is a good thing. When he got back together with me 4 months ago he promised that he will change and indeed did everythng to win me back. charkamman from portugal on November 29, 2010: I read this Hub too late, made all the mistakes.. Luckily he is still talking to me, I might get another chance to put it right...Who knows. He said he'd call me at 4pm today and now its 5.30pm and nothing. Let him understand that you really care about his emotions and that you never meant to make him feel bad. This is a complex issue about which many other articles could be written. Sometimes it's not what we want to hear, but the truth can hurt. He is my first boyfriend, so he understands I don't have much experience with relationships, and my boyfriend has taken things slow and respectfully told me many times there's no pressure for sex (he respects my decision to be a virgin until I fall in love). You have to be a hell good actress to fake you are ok and all smiles and be "breezy" when deep down you are sad, insecure and in fear of a breakup, In all honesty I was very skeptical but also desperate at the same time, anything was worth a try. Do so in a soft manner. Raymond D Choiniere from USA on January 30, 2010: I liked your hub. Thank you for sharing how people come to you for advice. 5 Things To Do When Your Partner Seems Distant. He might be pulling away because he's afraid of losing his freedom even though he does love you. When a partner acts distant, Toni Coleman, LCSW, CMC, psychotherapist and relationship coach, tells Bustle, it may be because they're angry or resentful, but they don't want to talk about it. Perhaps he is having low self-esteem or does not believe in himself anymore. Find out what are some of possible reasons why your significant other is acting distant and cold. How to deal with it: Make your man feel that he will always be worthy in your eyes. Which is a lie. Im confused what should i do? I get been with the guy for 10weeks now things wer fine he used to wake me up in the mrng suddenly now he dznt coll anymore on Sunday I tried to coll him he said he is still bzy he will coll me back ystde on wesdy tried to coll him he said he will coll me bck later he ddnt tdy on Thursday is his birthday I sended him msg n on WhatsApp as well he ddnt even say thanxs and he was online I tried to coll him no answer what should I do? He's a kind, loving and respectful partner, so I find it difficult to explain exactly why I feel this way. It's a very nice and optimistic way to look at things...but sometimes your boyfriend can be distant because he is unfirtunately planning to bail. When a man loses his confidence, he usually withdraws himself from people around him. It can be tough sometimes being a 'go to' but I do love my friends :). all the things you said where "no-no,s" i have done! … Two weeks after the break up he blocked me from FB and his phone is unreachable so I emailed him.. he replied nicely and he said someone hacked his phone so he blocked all contacts, he said he needs to isolate himself and he asked me how I am doing and greeted me happy new year and wishing me okay. Her boyfriend wasn't all over her as usual; he preferred being on his own. © 2021 Maven Media Brands, LLC and respective content providers on this website.